love

had a conversation with someone recently about love.

i like love.

our conversation revolved around the question of what is proper love and what is society's version of love. i will elaborate.

1. there is society's version of love. as a guy, this is very emotion based. it's about having the BEST and the BEST LOOKING and someone who is CONSTANTLY EXCITING and ALWAYS ADVENTUROUS. from what i can see, men in movies who would be very lovable are the ones who are very free spirited and adventurous, always thinking up new things to do each day.

and then i ask... really?! is there any way for a person to live up to all of that? there is only one best looking person in the whole world. there will always be someone who is more X and better Y. these are impossible standards to meet up to. there has to be something more.

2. then there's proper love. if what we see on tv is next to impossible to meet up to, there has to be a different type of love. so here's my suggestion. perhaps "best" is a highly relative term. perhaps it refers to inspiring security and comfort. perhaps feeling inclined to sacrifice anything for the other person is love. perhaps it isn't about sparks constantly flying but, instead, maintaining a fire that has sparks shoot out of it every once in awhile. and perhaps its about forgiveness and grace, desiring to forgive and offer grace to the other person, despite just about anything they could do. and communication. not everyone can communicate with everyone on an outstanding level. perhaps when that is found, it is something to hold onto. and perhaps all these things lead up to the "best."

i dunno. i'm just saying.